As if being in a relationship wasn’t hard enough (shoutout to all those with commitment phobia and some serious #FOMO), there’s a new hurdle to overcome—LDR aka long distance relationships. Ask someone with a boyfriend abroad or someone’s who’s had to move to a different country to pursue further studies—the struggle is real. Nothing tests the strength of a relationship quite like distance does.

Hence, in an attempt to lessen the burden and make it easier for you, we’re suggesting ways to help make your long distance relationship work…
 

Schedule a talking time

Schedule a talking time

When in an LDR, you know too well how difficult it can get to communicate with each other. Especially if the two of you are in different time zones. Precisely why it’s important that you chalk in some talk time in that busy schedule of yours so your boyfriend becomes a priority too.

 

Save the virtual whining

Save the virtual whining

Understand that you’re not the only one doing this. Don’t make it harder for him by constantly whining and complaining about how much you miss him or how difficult this long distance relationship is turning out for you, because he’s feeling the same too, he just isn’t showing it as much.

 

Avoid the fighting

Avoid the fighting

The two of you are already fighting inner battles everyday, so don’t make it worse by having actual fights. A few disputes may be unavoidable but communicate effectively on other days. Don’t play mind games or make unrealistic demands because there’s too much distance for him to overcome.

 

Make him feel special

Make him feel special

If you’re really into him, believe us, you’d never run out of ways to make him feel valued. Could be something as little as dropping in mushy late night texts or sending out handwritten letters (those who like it old school), c’mon—we’re all filled with a little (and a lot of) cheese inside. Get creative!

 

Focus on yourself

Focus on yourself

This is your chance to be single while still in a relationship, make it count! Navigate all that pent up energy on to yourself and grow. Take up an extra class or take time out to spend some quality time with friends and fam. Do everything you couldn't have done had he been in town.

 

Map a timeline

Map a timeline

You’re only in an LDR now, it isn’t going to last forever. So map out a timeline of how long it’s going to last, how many breaks you can afford to take in between, and on. The point is to establish clear grounds to rid yourself of any unrealistic expectations so the two of you can work the relationship more productively.

 

Don’t keep a score

Don’t keep a score

So what if you called him a lot more than he did? Is he not making up for it by texting you more often or flying down whenever he’s got enough funds saved up? Don’t keep a tab of who does what more and appreciate the fact that you’re both doing everything you can to make your long distance relationship work.

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