Being the perpetually dramatic females that we are, thanks to the movies we watch and the novels we read, that give us unrealistic expectations. So, we’re bound to get a little exaggerated and OTT about the little things in life like fights and quarrels with the S.O., all of which have us convinced it's the end of the world when it's really not.
Now, we don't entirely blame you; he must've done something to trigger your reactions too. But having said that, ending a relationship isn't always the wisest choice because the two of you have come a long way, haven't you? So here are a few pointers to help you analyze your relationship and decide for yourself whether you need a break or need to breakup.
- Case 1: Recurring arguments
- Case 2: Infidelity
- Case 3: Wanting space
- Case 4: Irreconcilable differences
- Case 5: Future plans
- Case 6: All consuming
Case 1: Recurring arguments
Been arguing for too long? Or do you find yourself constantly coming back to the same unresolved issues again and again? If yes, then best to find an effective way to communicate with your partner or else you'd be risking stagnating your relationship, which may or may not lead to an eventual end. Take some time out, to analyze and evaluate, just what it is that you want.
Verdict: Take a break
Case 2: Infidelity
While a few things can be overlooked for the greater good of the relationship, few are just plain deal breakers—such as cheating and infidelity. You may have a forgiving heart but he did take you for granted. Hard as that might be to digest, can't let it happen again. This is where you draw the line and call it quits.
Verdict: Breakup
Case 3: Wanting space
You may love each other a whole lot but no relationship should consume your being. If you constantly feel the need to get some breathing room, from a nagging partner or an understanding one that just demands too much of your time—please pause (not halt). You'll need it to bring some balance back into your life.
Verdict: Take a break
Case 4: Irreconcilable differences
These aren't the regular spats you have with your S.O., these are differences that are called dead ends because you seem to have reached an impasse. Could be difference of opinions, or issues regarding long term plans (career, marriage, kids), that you can’t seem to find common grounds for. Watch out, for these could bring you down in the long run—and you don’t want that!
Verdict: Breakup
Case 5: Future plans
You've been together for a while now and it's been great but where are the two of you really headed? You're both growing individually, in career and life, but is the relationship growing as well? If not, you may want to reevaluate your relationship to get a realistic picture of how much in-sync it is with your future. Better to take a temporary halt than to end it forever.
Verdict: Take a break
Case 6: All consuming
If despite having taken time off, the relationship still seems to consume you and you’re not able to give as much time to your other priorities, your relationship may not be the most suitable thing for you at this point. You’ve got other things to do too. So while losing one thing may be hard, think about the various other things you’d be gaining in place of it.
Written by Shreya Contractor on May 04, 2017