Your female friends are your true soulmates
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Shivani Pathak is a Mumbai-based lifestyle writer with 4 years' experience and a Master's in journalism, with bylines in Tweak India & DNA.
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There are a few things society has long decided should sit at the centre of a woman's life: marriage, babies, a snatched waist, curves, and above all, a great love story. Romance, especially, is treated as the non-negotiable axis around which everything else must revolve. If you don't have a romantic partner, the reasons are conveniently labelled: you're "too difficult", you don't fit conventional beauty standards, or you're simply not agreeable enough, or, as the ancestors would've said, a witch.
Jane Austen captured this anxiety perfectly in Pride & Prejudice: "I am 27 years old. I've no money and no prospects. I'm already a burden to my parents and I'm frightened." Centuries later, the fear still lingers. Why is it that romantic relationships and marriage are always positioned as the defining markers of a woman's life? And why does a soulmate have to be romantic at all? Why can't your friends, especially your girl friends, be your soulmates?
Charlotte York once posed this exact question in Sex and the City, telling Carrie, Samantha and Miranda: "Maybe we could be each other's soulmates. And then we could let men just be these great nice guys to have fun with." And honestly why not?
There's a reason so many books, films and TV shows centre around groups of women who stand by each other through everything. It's because these friendships are often the true romances of our lives. To see the best in someone and cheer them on, but also to witness their worst moments and stay anyway without hesitation or moral judgement is a kind of love that exists most fiercely in friendship, particularly female friendship.
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Romantic relationships are often positioned as the emotional centre of a woman's life but as years pass and life unfolds in unexpected ways, many women arrive at a quieter truth: while romance can be intense, transformative, and deeply meaningful, female friendships are often the relationships that endure. They survive time, distance, heartbreak, and change. They don't demand reinvention. They hold space for evolution. And in a world where love is often conditional, they remain one of the most reliable emotional constants.
While romantic relationships are often built on compatibility and attraction, female friendships are built on shared stories and incidents that may have occurred in all of their lives at some point — unrequited love, the one mentally draining situationship, bosses who steal credit for your work, sexism at work, the ticking biological clock and other darker instances like getting cat-called or harassed.
These moments that unfortunately most women experience at some point in their life ties them together emotionally. Because when you've sailed in the same boat, you don't need to explain your emotions to another, you just understand. And that's what creates emotional permanence in these friendships. The ability to show up for your fellow girlfriend in her times of distress and not expecting pages long of explanation creates a kind of intimacy that you can rarely achieve in a romantic partnership.
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Stability: These bonds are not easily shaken by external changes. They remain steady through career shifts, relocations, and personal transformations.
Emotional safety: Female friendships often offer a rare space where vulnerability doesn't feel like a risk. You can be honest without fear of abandonment or judgement.
Non-transactional support: There is no tallying of effort or emotional labour. Support is given freely, without expectation of return or performance.
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While we hold our guy best friends also closer, there are some things you simply can't receive in a male-female friendship the way you can in a female friendship. There's also the difference in emotional processing. Where men may instinctively jump to solutions, women often seek space to talk things through. Those long debrief sessions require patience, empathy and emotional presence. Over time, this shared processing builds deeper intimacy. These friendships are reinforced by mutual witnessing being seen again and again, across different versions of yourself.
With the way the world is now shaping up, a lot of women are decentering men, giving up on the idea of finding that one great love story and imagining entirely different futures for them which don't necessarily involve marriage and kids. It may however involve, getting a home with your best girl friend, getting a cat and living a peaceful life with someone who won't threaten to leave when things get hard.
Also with the concept of chosen family gaining prominence, this generation of women are placing a lot more importance on investing their time, energy and emotions in female friendships that can uplift them, support them and be their emotional safety net. Female friendships are no longer the supporting characters; they are becoming the central narrative.
Female friendships often outlast romance not because they are easier, but because they are built differently. They are grounded in shared history, empathy and choice. In a world that constantly tells women where to place their worth, these friendships offer something a woman truly needs in her lifetime — a love that doesn't demand shrinking, explaining or becoming someone else. And maybe that's the real romance we should've been chasing all along.
