Now, we do sympathize with you if you’ve been cheated on, but we also can’t deny the fact that the cheaters may have had their reasons too (that you were probably too saddened to see). Hence, in an attempt to connect the dots, and eliminating the drama and the blame game, we’ve put together a few reasons to why people cheat on their partners when in a relationship. So don’t beat yourself up, for it wasn’t just you!
Reason #1: Your partner was bored and saturated
This is a very real reason that tends to be taken for granted because how could you possibly get bored of the person you love, right? Well, here’s a reality check—it’s possible. Could be due to multiple circumstances, where your partner was exposed to different experiences that made him/her grow as an individual while the relationship remained the same. This was where he/she eventually started to saturate because the relationship no longed matched their pace.
Reason #2: Your relationship lacked intimacy
When was the last time you and your partner were intimate with each other? Intimacy shouldn’t be taken for granted as it’s the only thing that’s exclusive to the two of you. However, if despite attempts and efforts, your relationship seemed to fall short on intimacy, be it physical or emotional, then that was a red flag right there. Think about it, how good could a relationship possibly be if it lacked the most basic thing that distinguished itself from other casual affairs? Don’t take intimacy for granted.
Reason #3: You had a vengeful partner
Although not the most probable scenario, but vengefulness in a relationship isn't uncommon. This depends on your partner's ability to either take a downfall or take revenge. If your partner finds it difficult to let go of the times you’ve upset them or let them down, they try to manifest all that pent up anger and frustration by seeking revenge. They’re only ensuring they never get hurt or betrayed again, but little do they realize they’re sabotaging the entire relationship.
Reason #4: Your partner fell out of love with you
Falling out of love is as real as falling in love with someone. Read about how real it can get, here. The Katy Perry-like fireworks that you first felt when the two of you connected were now beginning to fade and there was little you could do about it. Constant arguments and fights with your partner didn’t help much either, for they only drifted you further apart. All these were signs that your partner was paving his exit route out of your life—and cheating only made it easier.
Reason #5: Your partner was the curious kind
When Dorothy Parker quoted—The cure for boredom is curiosity. There is no cure for curiosity—it fueled us to get out there and explore. But when it got too far (calling out the flighty air signs), Nancy B. Brewer summed it for us by quoting—Curiosity can be as dangerous as a butterfly hovering over a flame. This in itself explained why curiosity was beautiful yet so destructive. Like testing deep waters with both feet, a curious partner is capable of risking a perfectly good relationship in pursuit of the unknown.
Reason #6: Your partner was a commitment-phobe
Even if you managed to put the ‘boyfriend’/’girlfriend’ tag on them, they couldn’t last long enough. Commitment-phobes suffer from a serious case of the FOMO. Trying to bound them into a relationship is like caging a free bird. So while they did mean well for you, and never meant to hurt you, a relationship just wasn’t ideal for them. This doesn’t make them bad though, for all they ever wanted was to live freely, without the pressures of a relationship. Too bad they couldn’t convey it well enough at the start.