Listen…and then some
It doesn’t matter if it’s the same rant the tenth time over, just hear her out. Your friend may be experiencing a wide array of emotions ranging from anger to sadness and perhaps this is just her way of dealing with them. Sometimes, all we need is a sympathetic ear. So, go on and let her vent out all that steam, keeping your judgement aside.
Be the voice of reason
While no one wants to hear ‘I told you so’ just after a break up, you can be more objective about it. You can help her see the light of the day and explain that it’s better to move on. As a good friend, it’s also your duty to keep a check on impulsive behaviours. So, make sure your friend isn’t doing something silly like landing up at her ex’s place in the middle of the night or hooking up with someone random.
Get up and workout together
Sign a gym buddy pact with your friend. A workout will release those feel-good endorphins that’ll kick the blues away. A change in routine will also help her take her mind off the breakup. As exercise becomes a part of your daily schedule, you’ll both feel fitter, more confident and ready to conquer the world.
Offer a helping hand
Heartbreak can be all-consuming. So don’t be surprised if your friend has lost track of basic tasks like replenishing groceries or paying bills on times. Wherever you can, offer a helping hand. Now’s the time to try out those recipes from all those food videos you spent so much time watching! Cook up a meal; and better yet, call her over and make a plan out of it!
Plan a weekend getaway
There’s nothing like travelling to give you a fresh perspective in life. So, if you were thinking of that girls weekend getaway, now’s the time to act on it. Remember, the anticipation is half the fun, so get busy planning all the details. In fact, gather some of your closest girlfriends, because remember, the more the merrier!
Schedule some R & R
Since you’re an awesome friend, surprise your bestie with a spa appointment. A spa session will certainly calm those frayed nerves. Research has shown that massage stimulates the production of dopamine and serotonin aka the happy hormones and inhibits the production of cortisol, the stress hormone. We’re sure your friend will come out feeling as good as new!
Sign up for a class together
Sometimes, all you need to do is give grief a creative outlet and you’d be surprised with the results. You can use this as an opportunity to learn something, yourself. Consider options like painting, photography or dancing and get those creative juices flowing!
Keep a tab
A breakup is a vulnerable time and it’s easy to fall prey to depression. In many cases, it may seem that alcohol or substance abuse is the only release. Look for signs like sudden changes in weight, bloodshot eyes and obvious changes in personality. Keep regular tabs on your friend to make sure she’s not falling in a trap. Just being there is enough; it’s all the support your friend needs.